Friendly Chess

Submitted by Dozy on Wed, 07/15/2009 at 9:28pm.

Who are the world's friendliest people? It's a matter of opinion, of course, but many nations qualify. I like the Irish who are a particularly cheerful lot—as long as you're not orange in a green pub, or vice versa; and the Kiwis are up there too, especially on their home turf. The Pinoys—that's Filipinos to you—are possibly the most happy and engaging people I've ever met, and a race of chess enthusiasts to boot; and never forget the Hungarians, who I've always found to be helpful and charming.

We Australians like to tell the world we're friendly, and usually we are, but that's not everybody's opinion. I once overheard an American tourist in tropical Cairns complaining to his wife that, “These are the most uncourteous people I've ever met.” I would have explained that we are really dis-courteous, but thought that might have added to his woes. But whether un – or dis-, score zero for the Aussies.

So who wins my unofficial poll?

The Russians, of course.

If you find that surprising, let me give a couple of examples.

At the height of the cold war my wife and I were dancing at a German weinkeller in Sydney's Kings Cross and at the end of festivities were “auf weidersehning” like everybody else (it was an intimate, friendly nightspot, popular with the local German community). We said, “Auf weidersehn” to three guys at the next table and one of them said, “Non Allemand. Russki.” It led to an animated, unintelligible, conversation for they spoke no English and we spoke no Russian. Fortunately we'd all had so much to drink that it didn't matter and we parted the best of friends.

But that one experience isn't enough to qualify the Russians as the world's friendliest people. That honour belongs to a chess.com friend—a Muscovite—who recently sent me a package of Russian chocolates. They were delicious! And that was one of the friendliest, most unexpected things that anybody has ever done for me. (Don't ask for his name: you go and find your own Russian.)

Of course, this is a chess blog and in Caissa's chequered world there are only two kinds of people—yourself and everybody else. And a friendly person at the chess board is somebody who allows you to win a game.

It could be argued that Alexander Tolush wasn't being very friendly in this brevity from the 1948 USSR Championship but, on the other hand, Vladimir Alatortsev was quite obliging.

Of course, not all Russians are chess-friendly and Alexander Alekhine (I wrote about him under Alexander Who?) was one of the unfriendliest of all. Long before their world championship matches Alekhine gave Max Euwe a taste of things to come in this twelve move quickie at The Hague in 1921. It's described as a “free game” so I assume it was, in keeping with the theme of this post, a “friendly”.

Here's another unfriendly action from a very friendly guy. It's a very short demolition job Boris Spassky inflicted on Harry Golombek at Bucharest in 1953.

So, while I still think the Russians are very friendly people, I don't necessarily expect to see much evidence of it in the black-and-white jungle.

» posted in Dozy's Inferno
 

Comments:

by Dozy - 6 months ago
Blue Mountains Australia
Member Since: Aug 2007
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ArmanS: Dozy, I guess, after reading your blog, many people might start sending you chocolate. :) :)

I hope not, Arman.  I'm too fat now.  At my age, too much  chocolate could be fatal.  But what a way to go...

by ArmanS - 6 months ago
Gyumri City Armenia
Member Since: Sep 2008
Member Points: 82

Dozy, I guess, after reading your blog, many people might start sending you chocolate. :) :)

by Dozy - 6 months ago
Blue Mountains Australia
Member Since: Aug 2007
Member Points: 2209

It's my fault:  I shouldn't have written a post comparing nationalities.  To be honest I hadn't thought it was likely to be interpreted in a negative way.

Prima-era-bello:   Yes, it can be a little comical when people with a lost game offer a draw. 

I hadn't noticed any particular nationality being worse than any other in this respect; it's more likely that the  culprits hail from Beginnerland where wins are few and every point helps to lift their confidence.  As confidence and experience grow they will eventually migrate to Playerland, or even Masterland, where they will no longer ask for silly draws against thee and me. 

When you play such people you always have the option to ignore them and just play on.  Or perhaps you could just say, "No thanks."

batgirl: I'm a bit ambivalent about negative posts.  I don't mind anybody taking a potshot at me personally (though fortunately it hasn't happened very often) but I feel a responsibility for what gets published on the blog -- even if it's something I didn't write myself. 

So if somebody posts a comment that I feel is in bad taste I'm going to exercise my mouse-given right to click the Delete button.  I don't make a habit of it (that's the first time I've deleted anything) because my readers have a right to express their opinions, but it's good to have that option.

by batgirl - 6 months ago
NC United States
Member Since: Jun 2007
Member Points: 4475

I had read the post you deleted. Personally, I would like it if, when people felt the need to vent, they would do it in the forums. It's ok to debate on someone's personal blog or even offer contrary views, but one should always keep in mind that he is, essentially, a visitor in someone else's space and act with a certain amount of decorum. Anyway, that's how I see it. I didn't realize, however, that you could delete a comment.

by Prima_ero_bello - 6 months ago
Bari Italy
Member Since: Jul 2009
Member Points: 5

I have just a question for (some) american people...why do you offer me a draw only when I'm 7-8 points up or I'm about to checkmate you? Isn't it ridiculous?

by Dozy - 6 months ago
Blue Mountains Australia
Member Since: Aug 2007
Member Points: 2209

With regret, I've just deleted a post by a 19-year old Ukrainian boy.

I respect to your right to hold the opinions you expressed but your post was insulting to both Russians and Germans and, as such, has no place in a blog about friendship.

Sorry, Nikita.

by Dozy - 6 months ago
Blue Mountains Australia
Member Since: Aug 2007
Member Points: 2209

batgirl:  I found the French boys there quite friendly and sociable.

Not everybody would agree but an attitude that can overlook what happened "then" when relating to people we meet "now" is healthy.  Racial hatred carried on over generations, or even centuries, has been the cause of too much grief.   

I was born in Oz just before WW2 and grew up in an atmosphere of hatred toward the Japanese, yet eventually ended up working for several Japanese companies.  I found the people, as individuals, to be polite and friendly (though sometimes aloof) and very funny.  One guy, a wool buyer, once plucked a hair from my arm, held it up to the light, and announced, "Hmm!  Thirtyfive microns.  Only good for carpet."  Maybe I should change my handle from Dozy to Chewbacca.

But I can relate to your comment about the French.

Some years ago, being a perennial volunteer, I was co-opted to look after the kiosk at a Reiki convention.  A couple of Frenchwomen were there and, since they had opted to stay an extra night, I was asked to collect their money.  They were dancing and, as I approached, one of them took my hand and drew me into the dance.  She was slim, elegant, and a beautiful dancer and I was thoroughly enjoying myself.  It was eventually she who brought up the subject and, as we danced, she said, "How much do I owe you?"  I said, "Well, it was $40 dollars each when we started to dance, but it's getting less all the time."  "Ah!" she said, "You sound just like a Frenchman." 

by batgirl - 6 months ago
NC United States
Member Since: Jun 2007
Member Points: 4475

When I worked the night shift, I used to play chess at FICS in the mornings.  I found the French boys there quite friendly and sociable.  As a Jew who has never personally met a German, I had a vague feeling I would automatically dislike Germans, but when I met some through playing chess, I found those I met very kind and unexpectedly emotional.  I've always had a thing for Dutchmen who, besides being unusually tall, seem exceptionally clever and courteous. Australians are rather appealing also. Most of the ones I've met don't mince words and have a certain cowboyish verve.  Russians. . . well they have a special place in my mind since I imagine Russia as a glorious country (with a perpetually lousy political system) sporting a grand history of brave people who thrived in adversity and lived to the fullest.
I guess I could go on .. like the Spanish whom I found to be the easiest to get along with and the British who seem to always tend to do things properly and with honor. . . but I'd be up all night.
 

by Dozy - 6 months ago
Blue Mountains Australia
Member Since: Aug 2007
Member Points: 2209

keyif:   from an Irishman...

p peets: keyif. is that an Irishman or a leprechaun?

I've already written about the Irish and Leprechauns both here (The Leprechaun Gambit ) and a  very short, non-chess piece (A Crock of Gold ) on my own web site.  In any case, Keyif, may you be in heaven half an hour before the devil knows you're dead.

gxtmf1: I don't know... People who work work in human relations in the USA are generally friendlier than most I've seen elsewhere.

It wasn't really my intention to leave anybody out, gxf, and almost anybody can be friendly on a good day -- even the grumpy guy from Cairns who probably had reason to be off colour.

But that "x" in your name should entitle you to identify with the Irish.  Where does the "tm" come from? 

by gxtmf1 - 6 months ago
Mundelein United States
Member Since: Sep 2008
Member Points: 1309

I don't know... People who work work in human relations in the USA are generally friendlier than most I've seen elsewhere.

by ppeets - 6 months ago
hawaii United States
Member Since: Sep 2008
Member Points: 114

keyif. is that an Irishman or a leprechaun?

by Keyif - 6 months ago
Chicago United States
Member Since: Nov 2008
Member Points: 2832

On of my best friends is Russian. A very friendly people but it takes time to warm them up ;)

from an Irishman.

Remember an Irishman is not drunk as long as there is one blade of grass to hold onto.

 

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