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I am an active live chess player for 1 year and 8 months,  I come to live chess for 4 hours every night..  Playing and learning chess is my ultimate priority  and my game history will show how many games I played.  I don’t usually chat in the main room unless someone will say hi and hello to me or if I’m in the mood to chat but it only lasted for 10 minutes.

This is the first time I write my blog and its  not chess related.  I would like to share my bad experienced and disappointment in live chess.  A year ago, I was joking with my Filipino friend in the chatroom a guy from Colombia probably irritated and he called me bitch  and said  ‘’you Filipinos pay the membership fee’’ followed by another insult using his own language with the word ‘’ puta’’ with the presence of mod or a moderator.  Another incident, a guy from USA  said ‘’ Asian women are good in hook ups’’, I was the only asian woman speaking that night in the chatroom and I find it direct attack and insult and again it was said infront of the moderator.  I was surprised when I replied, the moderator  advised to bring the topic to private chat because they knew it will lead to a heated argument and disrupt the chatroom.  Why advising to bring it to private chat instead of deleting the post?  What will happen to me if I brought the topic in unmoderated private chat?  Last night, I was having fun with my friends and a guy from Canada said, Sonia suck good something like that and it was with the presence of a moderator.  I did not reply to the post because I am waiting for the post to be deleted  but it was not.  These are just few of the insults I’ve got not including the text abuse coming from my opponents. If this is happening infront of the moderator who will protect the live chess players?

Spams, religious, political topics were deleted instantly and easily why not direct attack and insults?  How do they determine and qualify  if its direct attack and insult?  when is the right time a moderator will decide if the post should be deleted?

I am expecting a block, report abuse and disabling the chat recommendation about my blog but let’s focus to the issue in the main chatroom about post deletion.   Live chess players are warned by the moderator about the consequences of violating the TOS or Terms of Service.  Do they really know what is a TOS all about and when is the right time to enforce the consequences of violation?

 

 

 

 

Comments


  • 7 months ago

    sonny2

    just ignore it sonia....plenty of people like that,,,does not deserve a second of your time..

  • 8 months ago

    bulletheadbilly

           dont sweat it sonia.. they are ma d cause they cant get a date with you,,

    so they have transformed themselves from a Warm blooded Human, to a Cold Blooded Yellow Bellied Sap Sucker Lizard.. Also known as 'Scallywags"

  • 8 months ago

    abu_ahmad

    hi sonia

  • 9 months ago

    podz0226

    hi, keep on p0laying

  • 10 months ago

    Woodthumper

    Hi my good friend Sonia.  I wish I was present during these times of uncalled for abuse.  I always support everyone in times of attack.  Friends or not.  I would have sent an abuse report in myself by copying and pasting the trash.  I will for you anytime I may see it.  You are a lovely and wonderful person.  As many in this post have said...don't let fools, sexist people and racists stop your enjoyment of live chat.  I have 5 pages of blocked losers in life.  You can only block 200 from your privacy settings on your page.  BUT, there is no limit to blocks if you do this from live chat.  I hope this helps you out.  I  want to be able to say a friendly hi to you in chat as well.  I miss you there.  You, like all nice people here, bring added enjoyment when you do chat in live.  All the best dear in all you do and remember...there are idiots all over this world.  Peace and good health to you and yours.  Mark  May you be richly blessed.  Smile

  • 10 months ago

    jho_cute88

    I've had similar experience like u, sonia. that's why I don't play at live chess so often. I find folks at online chess more refined.

  • 11 months ago

    yhaba

    hi

  • 11 months ago

    yhaba

    kuya jhon

  • 15 months ago

    vishalsulge

    Dear Sonia.. There is an option called disable chat in the chat box.

    Use that dear and u are sorted...

  • 15 months ago

    TULO8

    Just pray for them ate Sonia Cool.

  • 15 months ago

    -Soltitude-

    We have something in common..Sealed

  • 15 months ago

    tlaloc2k

    I'm sorry to hear about this, but not surprised.  My advice is for you to simply ignore these people.  Don't let it bother you.  These types of individuals have some serious issues.  Only they can help themselves.

  • 15 months ago

    -Soltitude-

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  • 15 months ago

    pretty_ann_donna

     i agree with u sonia  :)

    X)

  • 15 months ago

    neil08

    they really don't know the true essence of a fine young lady like you..pity for them..laro naman tayo..:D

  • 16 months ago

    malachi76

    Keep your head up.

  • 16 months ago

    malachi76

    Sonia,

      It is unfortunate that people would do things like that on this site. The only piece of advice that I can give is don't give them any power. There is ignorance all over the world. I hate to say it but sexism is prevalent everywhere. When people do and say things that are hurtful; they are doing it just to get a response. When we (victims of verbal abuse) give them a response then it fuels their hatred and ignorance.

    Yes, site moderators should be on top of that stuff, but in case they are failing to do their jobs successfully. Then it is up to us to just ignore the ignorance.

     

    P.S. Werent we supposed to play a bullet game? :-)

  • 18 months ago

    nitinonline4u

    HEY SONIA DOT NOT GET HURTED WITH THIS TYPE OF PEOPLE..KEEP LOVING & PLAYING CHESS.AND BE ALWAYS PROUD TO BE ASIAN..
  • 18 months ago

    centuryhorse

    Keep playing its only a few creeps.smile

    C.H.

  • 20 months ago

    LadyChocolate

    Hi, Sonia.  Thank you for being a member of Asian Beauties.  As a newly appointed asst. admin., I learned we try our best to watch over such abuse in Forums and News.  So far the people here have been pretty good.  If you get or see such abuse, let me know and I'll bring it to the attention of my superiors or handle it myself if I can.

    I don't know how to stop abuse in games - I've experienced that myself.  I've resorted to "flinging it back at them" and then not playing with them anymore.  I wish I knew how to stop such abusive chats during games, or at least define such people as enemies so the program will not allow us to play another game together.

    Anyway, best of luck in all your endeavors especially chess.  As for improving one's game, we at Asian Beauties have an idea to get something going but it is still in a planning stage.  Hope you'll join us from time to time, especially in Team Matches.

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