Chessplayers Anonymous?

Submitted by Anda on Thu, 01/17/2008 at 1:11pm.

Ever since I learned this great game, I've been hooked.  I have occasional spurts of good moves, but, more often, my moves tend to be careless and poorly thought out.  Nevertheless, good or bad, win or lose, I simply love this game, as in "I love to breathe."

During my early chess years, my children were my main opponents. We spent many a night hovering over the chess board, especially my middle child and I. Eventually, they grew up, left the nest and built their own nests in faraway places. Then I played chess on the train with a couple of other commuters and during lunch hours at work. A few years later, I changed jobs and found -- alas! -- no one there with whom to play.

Then the Internet appeared and I discovered Chess.com and everything changed.  The thrill of it!  I was like a kid who'd found a new playmate -- ten new playmates, twenty, forty!  And all of them willing to come out and play at different times, day or night.  I couldn't wait until everyone else in my household had settled down for the night and I could be alone with my computer and whatever playmates had dropped in for a game. Oh, the thrill of it! First I decided I had to stop playing at 10:00, then I let it go until 11:00, and then I extended it to midnight and well beyond.  That was wreaking havoc on my health. I was draaaaaaaaaaaagging the next day, whether I had to be at work or do things around the house.  Does anyone else have this problem -- realizing one should stop playing, but being unable to pull the plug on a game?  My constant thought was "Just one more move..... just one more move.....just one more move.....just one more......."

 Perhaps I should look for a 12-step Chessplayers Anonymous, eh?

Fortunately, my tale has an arguably happy ending. My computer-geek friend across the street offered to put "parental restrictions" on the chess site to cut me off at 11:00. It did mean that, no matter how exciting the games or how scintillating the chatter that goes with some of them, they would be mercilessly axed at that bewitching hour. But you know what? The games were always there the next day, waiting for me. Nothing was lost, and I soon grew accustomed to the new regimen. I must say, though, when self-discipline is lacking, it's great to have a computer-geek friend handy to put a mechanical discipline in place.

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Comments:

by RedSoxpawn - 45 days ago
Birmingham, Alabama United States
Member Since: Nov 2007
Member Points: 24763

I went for 12 hours yesterday with out an internet connection, I almost died because of the games I wasn't playing in

by veggiegirlie - 46 days ago
EVERYWHERE and NOWHERE International
Member Since: Dec 2008
Member Points: 199

Ha ha!!! I totally understand!

 

I could play chess all day if I could too.  Have a great day today!

-Kayt

by kjmw - 4 months ago
Georgia United States
Member Since: Mar 2009
Member Points: 810

I AM TOTALLY ADDICTED!!! The restriction thing you had installed....BRILLIANT!

by Joe_Blob - 4 months ago
Boa Vista, Roraima Brazil
Member Since: Jan 2009
Member Points: 2373

To be, or not to be...

To be a non-healthy chess player in this life or a healthy non-chess player in the next... Time will tell and time is a great teacher. The problem is, it kills all its students. Cry

by saboegel - 8 months ago
Germantown, WI United States
Member Since: Feb 2008
Member Points: 68

Yes, dear Anda.  I find myself thinking just one more move... and then one more and then one more. 

by marietree - 9 months ago
Cleveland, OH International
Member Since: Jun 2008
Member Points: 167

I have the same problem w/solitaire!  Sometimes w/chess, but only when I'm winning.  Marie

by carterbig - 14 months ago
Rosamond, California United States
Member Since: Nov 2007
Member Points: 8

I think chess, and games of skill are especially intoxicating because they give us the thing we want most - to strengthen the illusion that we can control things, accomplish things by our own reason and strength.  Of course, it is only an illusion.

by lukeyboy_xx - 15 months ago
london England
Member Since: Dec 2007
Member Points: 4544

i agree i find this site very addictive!

by alicorn - 15 months ago
Hauula,Hawaii International
Member Since: Jun 2008
Member Points: 129

Ms. Anda everything you said about this game is true, maybe I should look into one of those, what do you call it parental-restriction things put on mine.

by Anda - 15 months ago
Roslyn, PA United States
Member Since: Aug 2007
Member Points: 859

We're all in this together! Everyone should have a computer-geek friend to do the disciplining.

by alicorn - 15 months ago
Hauula,Hawaii International
Member Since: Jun 2008
Member Points: 129

Mrs Anda everything you said is so true, about the late night games, the one more moves. You have just described me. Am I a junky? My lady tells me I'm hook.

by waleschess - 17 months ago
porthcawl mid glam s wales uk Wales
Member Since: Feb 2008
Member Points: 20

Hi , I  have now retied and I try and go on line at 7pm some times if I have no orders from my wife ie( Do the garden , paint  the rooms ) go to the shops

 

and if I am not playing golf I try and play the game Wink

 


by kal1111 - 17 months ago
Canada
Member Since: Mar 2008
Member Points: 74
I agree with chef_d. Addictive!!!
by chef_d - 18 months ago
Texas United States
Member Since: May 2008
Member Points: 30

Let me know when you organize the 12 step meeting!!

 


by RobRoyale - 20 months ago
Samoa Pago Pago
Member Since: Oct 2007
Member Points: 18

I would imagine most players on this site share the same sentiments with you, Anda.  I think it's very normal but definitely can zap your energy for the next day.   Wink

 Royale


by RedSoxpawn - 22 months ago
Birmingham, Alabama United States
Member Since: Nov 2007
Member Points: 24763
I find I have the same problem with my chess playing
 

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