heeeeeeeeeey, lets play a game of chess sometime

hi do you want to play a game with me by any chance i will talk about anything with you

Support your drive for more gay/lesbian interest in chess.

lets play im gay

Sexuality has nothing to do with chess. Neither does race, nationality, age, location or gender. Yet some people have created groups designed to draw a particular group of people together. Look at some of the groups on Chess.com. Cheese lovers, Cat Appreciation Society, Welsh Chess, Beer Lovers, Kiwis, Music Lovers, National Hockey League fans, and Punk Rock just to name a few. None of the above has anything to do with chess. Somebody out there wanted to create a group for people that shared a common bond. Do all these groups get slammed for being cheese, cat, or beer lovers, etc.? Probably not. Do they have a right to come together and play chess with like minded individuals? You bet they do.

Except if it is a group for gay and lesbian players does it become an issue. I wrote my original post after reading attacks on an out gay player. I have never been attacked personally, although there has been some rude comments on the group I started. The people making the issue are the ones who feel that our sexuality is wrong. They say we should keep that issue in the bedroom. But our sexuality is who we are. It determines how we think and how we act and react. Heterosexuals don't hide their sexuality but we are supposed to hide ours.

It is okay and fine for you and others to not declare their orientation. I was closeted for quite a while, so I understand. I also have a friend who is a flaming queen which makes me feel awkward when we are out in public. I don't find fault with who he is. It is that I want to choose who I share my sexuality with. Plus I am not a flamer myself. In fact most people don't even realize I am gay until I tell them because it is not the only thing I am. I just want to share my chess experience with other gay and lesbians. I am not interested in playing with beer lovers or appreciators of cats.

One last note:

If you don't share with others your sexuality doesn't make you less brave. You have to be smart and safe. And sharing isn't always safe or smart. Being true to yourself despite expectations can be brave.

Just making my own comment and it has nothing to offense you or anything.

 

I sometime do think that people who can say out loud that they are homosexual are brave.  They won't mind how people going to judge them base on their sexuality and what kind of discrimnation they must face later on.  For me?  I don't have the gut, and it sometime drive me crazy when I ask myself should I say it out loud?

 

 

We can be friends too, though I don't know you. 

But really, does sexuality has anything to do with chess?